Your Profile Picture
Your profile pictures are critical to catch a guy’s attention. He is very visually orientated. The very first thing he will check out are the profile photos. If they attract him, he will read what you have to say. If not, he will go on to the next profile. He spends only a very few seconds before he makes a decision to stay or move on to the next profile.
Your picture must be attractive and recent. If your hair style has changed consider a new picture. A guy’s main complaint and turn-off is that the woman looks nothing like her picture or she looks much older than her picture. He takes that as a breach of trust and wonders what else she would be untruthful about. You have lost his trust and it’s all over. This is something you have complete control over. It is simple and can be handled so that it works in your favor without a lot of time or expense.
A guy wants to see a picture of your smiling face and a nice, appropriate full body shot. This critical information has been compiled from interviewing dozens of men. Just imagine that a man is shifting through tons of profiles and if he doesn’t see a full body shot he will think the worst. He often won’t take the chance of spending his time or money on a date he thinks he might regret. He hates surprises and won’t give her a second chance. Take steps to stop him in his tracks when he sees your picture.
Take a number of pictures of yourself or have a friend take several shots of your face and body. Sort through your head shots and be very particular to choose one that looks friendly with a nice smile in your eyes as well as on your lips. A very slight forty-five degree angle shot is nice rather than a full-on face shot. It is more slimming and creates a friendlier image. A slight tilt of your head adds a nice flirty touch that catches a guy’s eye.
Wear more make up than you normally wear. The flash and the lighting in the room will wash you out making you look paler and less defined than you are in person. Take a number of shots and select one that is very flattering. Make certain you are expressing yourself with your eyes in the picture. Look interested in him in a friendly, flirty manner. Think of a joke or something pleasurable when you are having your pictures taken. Keep that glint or smile in your eyes as well as on your lips. Guys love to see a woman smile and they want a woman who they think will be adding an uplifting air to their lives.
Talk to Directly to Him in your Profile
The very first words you write are vitally important. You can say something like…”Hey, I totally understand how difficult it is to find a great women online”…etc. Look at it from his perspective because no one else is doing that, it will make you stand out. Remember he has no patience when he is searching through profiles because he does not know you and he is going through very quickly. He will spend only a few seconds on each profile and even less on the ones that turn him off immediately and he certainly won’t read a long, negative, uninteresting profile. He will just go to the next one and in a flash you have lost your chance with that guy. You have got to get his attention and keep it long enough to engage his mind and thoughts to make him want to meet you and spend time with you.
Write like you are sitting across the table from him. Like you are talking and having fun with a good friend. Don’t sound like a textbook or make lists of your attributes. Always use your spell check and have someone else read it before you post it. Another person may catch something that may turn him off.
Your photo and your profile is your hook to get his attention to start conversation.
Make your profile fairly short and fill it with word pictures to help him understand what you are really like. You might say something like that you enjoy volunteering at a local children’s center so he can get an idea of what you do that showcases your good qualities. Saying I am kind, gentle, honest, etc. is a real turn-off to a guy. He knows anyone can say these things. But if you say what you do that proves you are that way, then he will believe and trust you more. Many women are not honest in their profiles and make sure you are not one of them.
When he sees you for the first time he will know you put up a current picture of yourself. And make sure that the way you behave when you meet him is the way you portrayed yourself in your profile. Never put on airs or try to say you are something you are not because you will be found out and it will be over! This is not a place for second chances.
Be Upbeat and Positive
A guy’s worst fear is that they might be tied down with someone who makes their lives less interesting and fun. They don’t want someone they have to entertain all the time, even for one evening, let alone a lifetime! Hey, they were being honest when they revealed these things. When you first meet for the very first time, make sure you have a very attractive pleasant look on your face. The look you want is the look you have just before you are about to smile. Check out the striking difference in a mirror.
Practice this attractive approachable look with a lively glint in your eye. It is well worth it to make this your natural facial expression. This is so much more attractive than a plain “just there” look or worse a serious distracted look. That does not attract a guy and they won’t be interested or will just move on and won’t bother to call. Now you have the inside scoop and you can avoid these mistakes. You can be well on your way to finding the guy of your dreams!
Tips for Catching a Guy's Attention Using Online Dating Sites
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